You might wonder how it’s possible for you to choose the sex of your baby. Well, there are 4 main things that come into play here. They’re all described in this wonderful book. If you want to find out right now about the ways you can conceive a baby boy or girl, click here or on the picture below.
So what are these 4 things that influence the sex of your baby?
The first is the sexual position that you use. Obviously, if you use a sexual position where the man’s ejaculation ends up near the opening of the cervix, it’s easier for the sperm to pass into the uterus because they have a shorter journey to make. So sex positions that give deep penetration may increase your chances of conception. But the sex position you use can also determine the sex of your baby because boy-producing (XY) and girl-producing (XX) sperm move at different speeds towards the egg. Using the right sex position is incredibly important when you want to conceive a boy or a girl. Check out how to choose the sex of your baby here.
Secondly, the sperm which will produce a baby boy, that’s to say those carrying the XY sex chromosomes, don’t live as long as the sperm carrying the XX sex chromosomes – the ones that produce a baby girl. This is another reason why you need to use the correct sex position for conceiving a bay boy or a baby girl. In this amazing eBook you’ll find full details & pictures of the sex positions which not only increase the chances of conception but also maximize the chances of you having a baby boy or a baby girl, as you wish. Click here or on the picture to find out how this works.
Thirdly, the internal environment of the vagina may influence the gender of your child. This means that things like body temperature, or the acidity or alkalinity of the woman’s vagina, can favor or hamper the boy or girl producing sperm. And that’s something you can directly control – with what you eat, for example, as well as when you have sex in your monthly cycle.
So not all sexual intercourse, and not all couples, have an equal chance of conceiving a baby boy or girl. You can make sure that you’ve done everything possible to conceive a baby boy or baby girl, depending on your choice, by ensuring that you’ve made the environment inside your vagina most suited to fertilization by male sperm or female sperm. Again, check out how you can do this here.
Lastly, it’s necessary for both parents to be fertile: for the man to have a good sperm count and the woman to be ovulating viable eggs. Those factors you can also influence by what you eat and your lifestyle. (If you don’t manage to conceive, it’s probably best to see your doctor. The standard advice given is to see a doctor if you’ve been having unprotected sex – i.e. sex without contraception - for a year without conceiving a baby, or, if you’re over the age of 35, to see a doctor if you’ve been having unprotected sex for six months without conceiving a boy or girl.)
All the sex positions which can help you conceive a baby boy and the sex positions which can help you conceive a baby girl are described in the most successful system ever devised for choosing the sex of your baby: it’s called The Shettles Method after Dr Shettles, who discovered it. Of all the systems that claim to help you choose the sex of the baby you conceive, this is by far the most reliable.
So how does it work? The sperm which produce a baby boy have XY sex chromosomes. Those which produce a girl have XX chromosomes. Sperm carrying XY chromosomes aren’t quite as strong, and they don’t live as long, but they move faster. These facts allow you to tip the odds in favor of conceiving a boy by following some simple steps. The whole system – every single thing you can do to give you a better chance of getting a boy or a girl – is described in simple, straightforward detail here: The Shettles Method.
When you choose the sex of your baby following these steps, your chance of conceiving a boy or girl increases by almost 100%. In fact, when the Shettles Method is applied properly, the success rate is 90%. This can give you the choice you want when you wish to conceive a baby boy or you’re dreaming of a baby girl! Good luck!
You have to know when you ovulate. Because of the limited life of the XY sperm, you need to limit sex to a period from 24 hours before ovulation to 12 hours after ovulation. If you have intercourse more than 24 hours before you ovulate, your chances of having a boy are much lower. All of this is described in the Shettles method. Check it out here:
Dr Shettles suggests that the best way to determine the correct time to have intercourse around the point of ovulation is to check the state of your cervical mucus. Just before you ovulate it has a watery and elastic consistency similar to that of raw egg white. Charting your cervical mucus over a period of a month also allows you to be absolutely sure of the day that you ovulate. The cervical mucus also influences how easy it is for the XY – male – sperm to get into the uterus. Around the time of ovulation, when the cervical mucus is less acidic and slippery, the XY sperm can penetrate it more easily.
In addition, Dr. Shettles suggests that you monitor your basal body temperature very carefully. His system explains in great detail how to monitor your body temperature and watch for the change around the time of ovulation. If you wish you can also use ovulation predictor kits. These kits monitor changes in the hormone level in the body prior to ovulation, and allow you to check the point at which the hormone associated with population surges in your bloodstream. When you have detected this search, you can predict the time of ovulation fairly accurately. And Shettles also observes that sex positions which provide deep penetration also help to get this male sperm nearer to the cervix.
There is some other factors which we should mention because you’ll see them repeated in the folklore we can’t vouch for whether or not they are accurate: a high sperm count is helpful in producing a baby boy, so the male partner should wear boxes rather than tightfitting underwear which allows the testicles to remain cool and increases the sperm count. In addition, and somewhat improbably, drinking coffee before sex apparently increases the activity of the XY (male) sperm.
The missionary position, also known as the man on top
There is general agreement from all experts that the missionary position, whether man is on top, offers the greatest chance of having a baby. It gives deep penetration which allows the man to deposit his sperm near the opening of the cervix, while ensuring that the woman’s prone position, lying on her back, keeps the sperm near the cervical opening for as long as possible before it drains out the vagina.
It follows that if you can adjust the angle of the woman’s hips so that her vagina is tilted downwards, the sperm will have an even greater chance of passing into her uterus and up into the Fallopian tubes where it can fertilize an egg. This is shown in the illustrations below, and the photographs demonstrate how you might want to put it into practice!
Of course not only is man on top or missionary position good for conception, it’s also very enjoyable sex position in its own right since the couple can look at each other, there’s lots of bodily contact, opportunity for kissing, and indeed the chance for playing with your partner’s breasts and pulls with both your mouth and fingers. Not only that, but both partners can move up to the enjoyment of the sexual rhythm.
If you trying to conceive a baby, it’s probably a good idea to lay down for half an hour after intercourse is complete to try and keep your partner’s semen in your vagina. (Your body may not always agree, of course, because – as you will have experienced – semen is actively expelled by the vagina, in a process called “flowback”, anything from a few seconds to a few hours after sex. Even so, laying down like this maximizes your chance of conceiving a baby. Best sex position to conceive a baby boy. Reason: The male sperm are shorter lived but swim faster, and may have a greater chance of getting to the uterus first when sperm is deposited near the cervix.
Doggy style or rear entry sex position
You all know what this is, of course: the woman kneels facing away from the man, while he stands on kneels behind her and enters her from behind. It offers very deep penetration, and the opportunity for the man to make very deep thrusts, which helps get the sperm close to the cervix. Clearly it’s not quite as good as the man on top position for keeping semen within the vagina after making love, but if the woman does a quick rotation and lies down on her back, then it’s almost as good.
From a lovemaking point of view, it can give a man a very intense orgasms because of the exciting view he gets of his partner’s behind, it allows the woman a great deal of freedom of movement if she wishes to enjoy this, because the man the chance feeling powerful and sexy, and the woman the chance to let her sexual instincts flow; the man can have her close and reach around and pleasure his partner by playing with her breasts or clitoris, while she can reach between her legs and stimulate his testicles and the base of his penis as he thrusts.
In short, it’s a very sexy position can produce good orgasms — although it’s not regarded in any way is helpful to conception the woman to have an orgasm during intercourse, it’s obviously very pleasurable if she does so (although unfortunately quite uncommon!). Next best sex position to conceive a baby boy. Reason: same as for the missionary position.
Edge of the bed sex position
If you have the woman laying on the edge of the bed, and her partner enters her from either a standing or kneeling position, you can get good penetration and once again ejaculate near the entrance to the cervix. It’s also an exciting position because it’s different the ones usually used by couples, but it still gives deep penetration and mangling the vagina which helps retain the sperm in the entrance to the cervix was long as possible. Also a good position to conceive a baby boy. Reason: same as for the missionary position.
Side by side spooning — the best sex position to conceive a baby girl?
If you’re dreaming of a baby girl, you really want a position that offers shallow penetration and deposits the sperm a little bit further away from the cervix. One of the best ways of achieving this is to use side-by-side sex position with partners facing the same way — this doesn’t allow the man to enter his partner’s vagina quite so deeply, but it’s still tender and loving position, perfect for babymaking, with ample opportunity for mutual caressing, fondling and contact.
It’s also good for lying together after making love, and, according to popular wisdom, will increase the chances of the XX, or female, sperm reaching the uterus first.
Woman on top sex
As you can see by now, any position which tends not keeping semen near the entrance to the cervix is probably one that favors a baby girl. And clearly in the woman on top position, at least when the woman has her body upright, is one which will tend to allow the semen to drain out of the vagina faster, and therefore increase the chances of a XX sperm producing a baby girl. At least that’s the theory!
The best lubricant for couples trying to conceive a baby
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PreSeed lubricant is generally recognized as having least effect on sperm survival and motility.
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